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-B- HOW TO PERFORM SELF BREAST EXAMINATION Jan 12, 2010 9:15 AM   As many as 1 in 8 women and men will be diagnosed with some form of breast cancer over their lifetime.  Please perform self breast examinations regularly and get a mammogram as soon as possible.  Don't wait until you are 40 or 50.     Step 1 Begin by looking at your breasts in the mirror with your shoulders straight and your arms on your hips. 1)  Here's what you should look for: 2)  Breasts that are their usual size, shape, and color 3)  Breasts that are evenly shaped without visible distortion or swelling 4)  If you see any of the following changes, bring them to your doctor's attention: Dimpling, puckering, or bulging of the skin 5)  A nipple that has changed position or an inverted nipple [pushed inward instead of sticking out] 6)  Redness, soreness, rash, or swelling     Step 2 Now, raise your arms and look for the same changes. Step 3  While you're at the mirror, look for any signs of fluid coming out of one or both nipples (this could be a watery, milky, or yellow fluid or blood).     Step 4 Next, feel your breasts while lying down, using your right hand to feel your left breast and then your left hand to feel your right breast. Use a firm, smooth touch with the first few finger pads of your hand, keeping the fingers flat and together. Use a circular motion, about the size of a quarter. Cover the entire breast from top to bottom, side to side — from your collarbone to the top of your abdomen, and from your armpit to your cleavage. Follow a pattern to be sure that you cover the whole breast. You can begin at the nipple, moving in larger and larger circles until you reach the outer edge of the breast. You can also move your fingers up and down vertically, in rows, as if you were mowing a lawn. This up-and-down approach seems to work best for most women. Be sure to feel all the tissue from the front to the back of your breasts: for the skin and tissue just beneath, use light pressure; use medium pressure for tissue in the middle of your breasts; use firm pressure for the deep tissue in the back. When you've reached the deep tissue, you should be able to feel down to your ribcage.   Step 5 Finally, feel your breasts while you are standing or sitting. Many women find that the easiest way to feel their breasts is when their skin is wet and slippery, so they like to do this step in the shower. Cover your entire breast, using the same hand movements described in Step 4.    
-B- Blondeyy's last Hoorah! Jan 12, 2010 8:55 AM With my bald head and bony fingers and against David's advice I write to you: It began with a Couch where I met some of the most wonderful women AND men [Grandpa]:  Insightful, compassionate, caring, intelligent, charismatic, fun, and supporting.  With amazing irony it ends with Mind, Body and SOUL. I hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving and Christmas!  My Christmas present this year was the reconnection with my family!   Although this gift was brought to me due to my breast cancer metastasizing to my lung.  I had lost part of my breast at first via lumpectomy, and then went on to lose the whole breast and part of my axilla, and now it has [taken over] to to speak.  There is no way to put it more eloquently.  It is what it is. My family is here.  My David is here.  I think back on the days of the Couch: Ruby kept me smiling. Grandpa kept me thinking. Gatara kept me laughing. KTY kept me happy. HoneyKnows kept me humbled. SugarKat kept me giggling. Iveenia kept me informed. Then came the three women who made fun of my illness relentlessly in a public blog.  The PM wishing that I were dead felt like a knife into my heart - tearing down and ripping through flesh and bone.  To you: 'It is much easier to be critical than to be correct.' Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881) British politician and author I called upon an OLD friend who, by looking around, has a great group and is having fun!  Telling her who to stay away from I am certain helped.  Good luck D. My hope for the new year is to rest as peacefully and as painlessly as possible and to get to know my family again while there is time - Thank God for time. For the FRIENDS I met on Sugar - Please be KIND to one another.  Don't assume.  Time is precious.  Keep feelings in mind before you speak.  And, above all, and my lesson learned on Sugar - DON'T rely anyone but yourself.  Do NOT put your trust in anyone. Please perform self breast exams and encourage your family and friends to do so also. There are conflicting reports and arguments back and forth as to when to begin mammography by governmental bureaucrats.  Please insist your doctor order a mammogram for you as soon as possible.  It could save your life.  I would like to end this with MY own quote: 'Friends are like watercolour words, they wash away when it rains.'  Blondeyy-
-B- A Highly Recommended Book Nov 26, 2009 4:54 PM I have not been feeling well, which is obligatory of what I am going through, and I know there are people who are happy about this.  So, I have turned from Sugar to reading a LOT!  But, when I do have something of interest for you I will post it for you as I care deeply about so many of you.  I am not looking for sympathy or empathy of any nature.  Far from it.  Taking a break from Sugar has been situational.  Therefore READING has been a serenity of sorts.  Absorbing information which I wish I would have attained months ago.  A book advised for reading: "The Moral Sense" by James Q. Wilson   Mark Twain once advised, "Always do right.  It will gratify some people and astonish the rest." (you know how I love my quotes).  The thought of astonishing people is certainly appealing, yet somehow we have to know what's right before we can do it. How do we know what's right?  It's not easy, despite the fact that there's a vast field of study devoted to the topic which is described using terms like "Ethics," or "Moral Philosophy."  However, countless philosophers writing shelves full of books over have hardly improved on the age-old cliche', "treat others as you want to be treated."  Albert Schweitzer rephrased it this way: "A man is truly ethical only when he obeys the compulsion to help all life which he is able to assist, and shrinks from injuring anything that lives."  But why should we even be interested in opening the question?  Why not just leave the discussion of ethics to theologians?  Despite the fact that religion and ethics are sometimes assumed to be interchangeable ideas, a standard of morality is important whether one believes in a higher power or not.  It makes society work and establishes the basis by which human beings can relate to each other and to their environment safely and responsibly.  If our ethical lines shift according to whim, others won't be able to anticipate our responses or predict our stance on any issue.  We all have a strong desire to know where we "stand" in relation to others.  Do they care about us?  Do we care about them?  How do we know whether our relationships can be relied upon? Generally we know "where we stand" with others based on their treatment of us and their responses to our actions.  We have the best relationships with those people we feel certain will react more or less as we expect. Since this works both ways, we want to treat them with the same regard and respect that we expect them to extend to us. In his book, "The Moral Sense", modern philosopher and educator James Q. Wilson argues that there are ethical "inclinations" that are common to almost all people. Although he cautions that "this doesn't mean we have found a set of moral rules," he also believes that most of us try to keep society's laws out of higher concerns than merely a fear of retribution.  He notes, "a sense of duty, a desire to please, a belief in fairness, and sympathy for the plight of others." Discoveries in neuroscience over the past decade suggest that there might even be something of this sort hard-wired in our brains . "Mirror neurons" have created quite a stir since their discovery by Italian scientists in the 90's, and subsequent studies have had fascinating results.  The same areas of the brain are activated not only when we perform an action ourselves, but also when we watch the same action being performed by somone else. Many scientists are convinced that this indicates the seat of our brain's ability to internally simulate the experiences of others. As some neuroscientists say "Today, mirror neurons play a major explanatory role in the understanding of a number of human features, from imitation to empathy."  Empathy, of course, is what allows us to "treat others as we want to be treated."   Maybe we really do have a certain degree of a "moral sense," as Wilson argues.  If so, it would seem to weaken the arguments for moral relativism and to elevate words like "values" and "ethics" to a status somewhat higher than "tastes" or "preferences."  This distinction is very important in the study of ethics. Among other things it allows us to see modern examples of man's inhumanity to man as the horrors they are, rather than as merely another culture's chosen practices. Those who believe in a higher power may have reasons to adhere to a variety of additional codes and ethical standards, but whether one believes in a higher power or not, our "moral sense" at least should compel us to go about our lives with ethical standards founded on empathy and concern for others. As for John Q. Wilson, in a still, small voice he concludes his book with the words, "Mankind's moral sense is not a strong beacon light, radiating outward to illuminate in sharp outline all that it touches.  It is, rather, a small candle flame, casting vague and multiple shadows, flickering and sputtering in the strong winds of power and passion, greed and ideology.  But brought close to the heart and cupped in one's hands, it dispels the darkness and warms the soul." Please be good to one another.  It is so easy and healthy.  Let us consider the feelings of one another - not just ourSELVES.  This book has taught me more than was learned through 16 years of schooling.  It is not expensive - yet is so very valuable.   Love B
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-B- Gone for awhile......... Nov 23, 2009 11:10 AM I haven't and will not be on Sugar for awhile.  I have begun my radiation and chemo and not feeling up to it and for OTHER reasons.  If anyone would like to post INSPIRATIONAL and POSITIVE posts that would be wonderful!  I may check in once in awhile.  PLEASE keep posts POSITIVE and INSPIRATIONAL and INFORMATIVE as that what this group is for.  NOT gossip, etc.  Thank you!

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